About me and how I work

I believe we are all connected by the thread of common humanity. We each embody a unique mix of nature and nurture; we each experience the tensions and challenges of the human condition; we each experience universal needs which when met empower us to live whole and fulfilling lives.

I believe our human worth isn't linked with wealth or status.

I agree with Nathaniel Branden who wrote ‘life without effort, struggle, or suffering is an infant’s dream’ but the degree to which we live at the mercy of this reality varies greatly and the extent to which our unique nature and nurture combo helps or hinders us similarly varies. The paradox, we are all the same and different.

Our reasons for seeking help and the problems which bring us to therapy are also unique yet similar. They range from mild discomfort and a desire for improved wellbeing to overwhelming distress and a need to relieve mental health suffering.

We each find ourselves doing our best to navigate life in the 21st century; after years of working with so many clients I am convinced that our evolution has not kept up with the pace of change. Many of us find we don’t have the capacity to keep up while at the same time feeling whole, healthy and fulfilled.

Difficulties can show up in a multitude of ways. Our minds may be overwhelmed with too many thoughts or thoughts we judge, don’t want or can't understand. Our emotions offer their own kind of wisdom, sometimes sounding invaluable alarm bells not to be ignored. However, for some of us they may feel too much, too turbulent, or unbearable. Sometimes our actions and the way we behave feels out of control and becomes destructive or harmful.

The therapeutic relationship is unique providing a quality and depth rarely if ever, available elsewhere. Whatever your reason for reading this page, I know good therapy requires a good connection between us; a real relationship developed with the sole purpose of providing you with the benefits you seek. The fulfilment I gain from my work is my bonus to treasure.

Three things support successful work in therapy and coaching:

• We are on the same page about your reasons for doing this work; we have a mutual understanding about your goals and the challenges you are experiencing.
• You believe I can help; you have faith in my competence, expertise and experience.
• The process provides you with the knowledge, understanding and empowerment you need in order for you to gain a sense of mastery and control related to the difficulties which bring you here.